They say, "Things happen for a reason."

There are times in our lives that just make you think to yourself… “WTF!!!!” One second you’ve got a happy if not perfect life, the next second, you wonder how things could change so drastically and so quickly.


Just the other day I wrote that I broke up with my girlfriend. It was a mutual decision we made so we could individually take on our short comings. Healthy enough decision, I guess.

At least things didn’t look so bad with my job. I had the respect of the general manager where I was bartending. He even recommended me for a transfer to the new location they are opening in midtown! The lunch crowd over there would have been incredible. I could have kept my day shifts and made lots of money. It turns out, that would not be the case.

One of the executive chefs for the company always had it in for me for some reason. He’d always take a verbal swipe at me the minute I was less than perfect. I don’t really know what his problem was with me. Well, it turns out that I took a phoned in pick up order from a “friend” of his that didn’t go well. He got what he ordered, but it was said that I was “unpleasant”. (Just for the record, I’m known for being professional and extremely pleasant and energetic on the phone) The real problem, however, was that he wanted a can of Coke. I don’t know why I do this, but because a can of Coke cost $2.50, I suggest to guests sometimes that they should get the soda elsewhere so the can save a little money. I usually get a “Thank You” for that gesture and repeat customers. Not in this case. Instead, it get reported to Chef @#$$$#%$%^. The end result is that I got fired for an overblown sense of customer service. It just goes to show that in many instances, you’re only as good as your last performance.



At this point…. I don’t know. I really don’t know.







Well… One way I can look at this is; I’m not in that rut anymore. I wanted change. I got it. I wanted change in my relationship. I got it. I wanted change in my financial situation and in my career path. I got it. Now, what do I do with it?

The thing is, when you hear about these great success stories, they all come out of some sort of adversity. You know. Like how that guy Crammer on “Mad Money” at one point was homeless and slept in his car or I think Jewel the Pop/Country singer had the same situation or Madonna had her problems or Oprah had her bouts with adversity too.

This just might be the way that the cosmos or God or fate gets a person to be all they can be and not just settle for the minimum.

Yesterday, before I found out about my current work status, I picked up an application for Graduates admission to NJCU. It turns out that I may not be too late to apply for this fall semester.

They say, "Things happen for a reason."  The truth is. Things happen. We have to give it a reason.