I need retuning.

( this blog entry should have been submitted 2 weeks ago )

As you might have guessed….. I fell back into the rut.




I stopped running.

I started hitting the snooze to much.

I started eating indiscriminately.

I stopped doing those damn dishes.



There have been a few stressful situations that I’ve had to deal with recently.

One situation involved some criminal breaking into my car and stealing my GPS. (The truth is, my brother warned me repeatedly for months about keeping the GPS mount and charger out of view. Of course, being stubborn, I ignored the advice)

Another situation involves the apartment above me. (FYI, I manage my family’s real estate holdings with my brother.) A storm seemed to be the catalyst in the upstairs apartment’s loss of power. I had to find an electrician on the fly, because my usual guy was not available. When the power went out again upstairs in the middle of my 3rd anniversary “hot pot” dinner, I became a little upset that I had to call the electrician again.

The last situation that added a bit of extra stress in my life involves an apartment that I’ve been trying to rent for my aunt. There was a potential tenant for my aunt’s place, though it took her a week and a half just to leave a deposit and application. The certified check she left me included the security deposit but lacked the first months rent. I gave her leases to sign and instructed the perspective tenant to return to me the signed leases along with the remainder of the required deposit on the following day. The next day, then the following day came and went without so much as a text message from her. At this point, I left her a voice message stating that I felt she was dodging me because she had to scrape together funds for the remainder of the amount due, and because of this, she would have her deposit returned to her if she did not contact me ASAP. Still, no response.

I could’ve just waited for this lady to come up with the rest of the money, collect the lease and be done with the situation. But no, it’s my aunt’s place. I didn’t want her to end up chasing after rent month after month.

I decided to tell my aunt to reject the application because it seemed getting in touch with this woman when she owes you money is close to impossible. My aunt took my advice, but, to my dismay, sent the certified check to the woman’s guarantor, who lives in a different state from the apartment applicant!

A week after I left my ultimatum, this woman calls me as if everything is OK, and asks me when we can meet to exchange the signed leases, the keys, and the rest of the cash due! She gave me absolutely no acknowledgement to the messages I left her the week prior. ( I got to tell you, I can’t stand passive aggressive bullsh!t.) So I told her that her application for the apartment was rejected based on her weak financial position and her lack of communication skills.

Wouldn’t you know it? All of the sudden, the lady becomes an expert in communication and has all the time in the world to call and text and threatens a lawsuit, yada, yada, yada…. Uhg!

I’m not good with dealing with stress. I get a bit overwhelmed. Then I all I want to do is just sit around and watch TV and maybe have a beer.
It’s not all bad news though. I am doing something positive though.

I’m a self taught guitarist, though mediocre at best. I decided to get more serious with my hobby by taking blues lessons Guitar Bar in Hoboken.


I seem to be sleeping a little better too.



Making a life change is a lot like putting new strings on a guitar, I guess.

The strings need retuning, seconds after tuning, then minutes after, then and hour after and so on. The strings need time to adapt to the change imposed on them, until the strings do adapt, they will fall back into the state they were previously. Only after repetitive retuning, do the strings hold their new state.



I’ve got some retuning to do then.